Adults Make Choices
There really doesn't seem to be a whole lot of logic or compassion on the part of many who want to force women to carry unwanted fetuses to term no matter what the circumstances but, as this minister points out, everything isn't always black and white and sometimes adults make choices.
When I made my choice to end one life on behalf of other life, I was terribly troubled. I was in a double bind. I prayed and anguished. Then I made a choice. Adults make choices.
I have long thought that the drama of the abortion battle was not about unborn babies at all. Instead, it is about women and sex and about women and maturity. We are considered babies, sub-adults, in need of supervision over our sexuality. Otherwise we are dangerous. The virgin/whore debates come to mind.
When I made my choice to end life, I was behaving as an adult. I did not shrink from the responsibility of making a choice. I did not ask someone else to make it for me. And I certainly did not request my government's help in my bedroom. Instead, I behaved as an adult who is also a sexual being. Things happen sexually between people that are not always controllable. The unprotected sex I had with my husband while nursing our twins had a consequence that neither of us desired. It was a human life. That's why we named her, wept for her, wanted her but also knew we did not want her enough.
Because women are mature sexual beings who make choices, birth control and abortion are positive moral forces in history. They allow sex to be both procreational and recreational, for men and for women. That is good news, even though most of the world doesn't know it yet. In Africa, for example, too many men assume the freedom to have unprotected sex with women, giving them AIDS and heartbreak. What does our so-called pro-life government recommend? Abstinence! Such a recommendation is immoral to its core.
Obviously, protected sex is the most moral thing of all. Unprotected sex is adolescent, immature, sometimes life-threatening and always stupid. Women are mature enough to handle that. We are not babies. Sometimes, in the battle over killing our babies, I hear the echo of people wanting to kill women's maturity and sexuality. I don't like it. That's why I am breaking my silence about who I am.
I am a 58-year-old sexual, mature woman. That's who I am. I had an abortion. I am not bragging and I am not apologizing.
(hat tip to Shakespeare's Sister)
my state @ 1:29 PM :: Permalink
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Q-- You were brave to post what you did. You took personal responsibility for your action. I came here from SA. I always give a person a chance to explain themselves.
My thrust as you may have read is education and prevention before a life begins. Abstinance and monogomous married relationships are the only healthy one to choose, both physically and psychologically.
You seem to have done that. You made a decsion apparently for economic conditions? Please correct me if I am wrong, or ignore if it is too painful. I do think that the citizens of the state as a whole have a voice to decide on issues such as killing. Our US Supreme court actually said, "during the first trimester". Clinically, I understand that an embryo can not survide outside a uterus. Personally and spiritually, I believe that birth begins at conception, but others differ. Thanks for reading, and take a trip over to my blog and chime in on one of the philosophical issues I have posted there.
Oh, it wasn't me. It was brave of the minister who wrote it to say that to the world. If I were married, I cannot even imagine making a choice not to have a child. That was absolutely, positively a horrid choice for that woman and they must have honestly thought they couldn't take care of it or care for the other children - both during the pregnancy and after.
Q-- So sorry, my mistake on ID, but my reply is the same. Forward it to her if you get a chance.
On males, like myself, am married 36 years, 2 children. No fooling around before. I have seen those who try to spread their seed, but you probably have heard of a few females who "forget" to tell the boyfriend that she "forgot" her pill.
I think there are players on both sides. The SD law would make it a crime for someone to kill a child. The governor has not signed it yet. I haven't read all the details.
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